Here’s what I hear a lot from women when I send out an email about a workshop I’m having. You know, one of those sexy workshops.
“Sophie, I would love to some day but I’m just not ready yet.”
“I’m trying to lose some weight and when I do, I’ll totally come.”
“I don’t have anyone in my life right now.”
“I’m just too tired. I don’t have time.”
“When I’m feeling braver, I’ll come.”
Bah, I say. BAH!
It breaks my heart and makes me mad at the world that women should feel that there is a “perfect” time to express and pay attention to their sensuality. (By the way, I’m going to use sensuality to mean all of our sexual and sensual energies. Sexual is so limited; sensual embraces all possible pleasures. Which just sounds so much more divine, non?!)
Our sensual self is there. Here. All the time. She is there when we have bellies that roll over the top of our jogging pants. She is there when we are buzzing with lust, strutting in high heels, falling in love. She is there when we feel awkward. Shy. Shameful. When we don’t know how to say what we want to say. She is there when we feel like we will never desire again. Never feel anything again. She is there when we are trying to recover from an injustice. A violation of the worst kind. A rejection. A hurtful comment from a lover. She is there when we are the “perfect” weight. She is there afterwards. And before. She is there after we have a baby, an injury, a surgery and we’re facing new bodies. She is there when we are exploding with pleasure. She is there when no-one else is. She is still there when we feel too old to live as a sensual woman. When we feel that we are too married. Too damaged. Too unworthy. She is there when we are tired, depleted, at rock bottom, sad, angry and lost.
She is real. She is authentic. She is beautiful in her truth. A true reflection of where we are in our lives right now. And she is such a powerful, energetic, rejuvenating, pick-me-up, on-fire and super-heroine friend to have.
Our sensual selves are not just for partners. Are not just for sex. Are not just for the happy times. This is a part of us that can heal. Uplift. Recharge. Whatever our mood. Whatever our situation. Whatever the weather.
The Juicy Woman Revolution is not all about sensuality. But a woman’s sense of herself as a sensual and desirable woman and the power and confidence that comes from her accessing that part of herself is an important part of the Juicy Woman Revolution. (If you’ve been missing this part of you, read about the Juicy Woman Revolution course starting in January 2015.)
And when I talk about being a sensually alive woman, I don’t mean having to wear high heels all the time, buying new lingerie and being driven to notch up lots of sensual encounters. What I mean is that you are tuned into that part of yourself. You know her. You understand her. You get enjoyment from her. And she, in turn, fills you with power, joy, confidence and pleasure.
Be brave. Don’t wait. Honour your sensual woman. See what she has to tell you. To show you.
Just by turning some attention onto her, you’ll be giving her a sign that she is important.
If you want to learn more about her, join me for the Juicy Woman Revolution course starting in January 2015.
As always, thank you for reading,