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There is one thing that most women have in common. We hate something about our bodies. In fact, it seems like it’s something that just HAS TO BE. There is no other option. If you are a woman, you hate something about your body. Or everything. Or you wish just one thing was different. Even women with “perfect” bodies hate something. Or everything. Or wish that just one thing was different.

Have you ever met a woman who said “I’m loving my body right now” with a big juicy smile on her face? And if she did, would you look at her body to see if it was perfect because, otherwise, how could she love it?

We are taught that our bodies aren’t loveable unless they are perfect. And then, even as adults, we continue to carry that bullshit with us.

I’m here to tell you that I know the way we feel about our bodies can change. Without our bodies changing at all. I’ve experienced it and I’ve seen it happen with other women.

Does that sound like a place you’d love to be? A place where you just loved your body as it is right now and didn’t feel the constant pressure to work out, not eat that, eat that, deprive yourself, hate your body into perfection?

It’s possible.

Many of us have this idea that we can only love and celebrate our bodies when they are perfect. When we lose the weight. Get in shape. Force the body into perfection through discipline and punishment. Turns out, that’s a pile of shit. Yes, I love eating well. I love feeling my body get strong. I love enjoying my body. And I also know that I can change my body with my mind. (Somehow, that line came out in a Darth Vader voice…).

I know this is true. You can change your relationship to your body without having to change a thing about it. Basically, everything you want to feel in your body (accepting, loving, enjoying, sensual, sexy, desirable) is possible right now. You don’t need to lose weight. Change your body. Force. Deprive. Punish. Willpower. Just do it.

Here’s how one Juicy Woman Revolution alumni put it when she was asked “How has the course changed your relationship with your body?”

“It’s made me more attentive to my body. I think I became so used to criticizing my jiggly thighs and belly and arms that I forgot about the precious nooks and crannies. This course made me remember and appreciate. I feel so much more kindly towards my body now, all of it. (And shockingly, to me, when I’m in the moment, dancing, seeing and feeling my body, I don’t feel jiggly at all! ). What a weight lifted – the burden of loathing the fat. I didn’t even realize and didn’t expect that I could be free of that.”

And there you have it. Let go of the burden of wishing your body was different. Touch it. Dance in it. Use it. Treat it well. Caress it. Snuggle it. Indulge it. NOW. PS. Your body wants you to love her.

If you want to change your body, change your mind.

P.S. Look for the upcoming Juicy Woman Revolution course coming in Fall 2015.

In the comments below, I’d love to hear if you have had any moments in your life where you loved your body, even when it wasn’t perfect. And what allowed that to happen for you?

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