Loving your body

I know you think this is impossible

July 23, 2015

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedinThere is one thing that most women have in common. We hate something about our bodies. In fact, it seems like it’s something that just HAS TO BE. There is no other option. If you are a woman, you hate something about your body. Or everything. Or you wish just one thing was different. Even women with “perfect” bodies hate something. Or everything. Or wish that …

This is what I saw in her eyes

June 25, 2015

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedinThe other day, a gorgeously sunny day, I was out and about when I saw a beautiful young woman with amazing legs. I am a leg girl. I mean, I always wanted fabulous legs. I covet legs. Shapely calves. Lean hamstrings. Legs that break hearts in high heels and are born for Daisy Duke’s and miniskirts. And this woman had a great set of them. …

How I started to get my mojo back – Part 1

January 22, 2015

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedinLast week, I said that I was going to share my thoughts on how to feel like a sexual and sensual woman. Even when you don’t have partner. Even when you are pissed off and tired. Even when you are not having sex. Even when you think you will never feel full of desire again. Even when you feel totally disconnected from your own skin. …

3 pounds vs 8 cookies?

January 7, 2015

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedin(By the way, this photo is taken from “Advanced Style” – both a book and a documentary about women in their later years who continue to shine and express themselves with outrageous joy for life. Gorgeous and inspiring. You can find out more about “Advanced Style” here.) I was in the gym over the holidays and overheard a conversation between two women, both in their late …

Meet your most fearless, confident and pure self

December 17, 2014

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedin“She does what she wants and never anything to impress or please. She dances in the shadows when she wants and on centre stage when she wants. Her body is made for pleasure and she curves and rolls and reaches and mesmerizes. She is ice cold and fire hot. She is untouchable. Untameable. Unknowable.” These are some of the notes I made at the S-Factor retreat in January …

My thoughts on beauty…

December 3, 2014

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedin Now that I have a daughter, I have been examining my opinion of the word “beautiful” and what beauty is. Or should be. Little girls hear a lot about being beautiful. They are told they look so pretty in their dress. That they are beautiful. Adorable. Cute. Smile for the camera! There is something in all of that that makes me feel uncomfortable. Whether …

What I hear A LOT from women…

October 29, 2014

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedin Here’s what I hear a lot from women when I send out an email about a workshop I’m having. You know, one of those sexy workshops. “Sophie, I would love to some day but I’m just not ready yet.” “I’m trying to lose some weight and when I do, I’ll totally come.” “I don’t have anyone in my life right now.” “I’m just too tired. I don’t …

“…and I love myself!”

July 4, 2014

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedinThe other day, my three-year old daughter was telling me who she loved. The usual; mummy, daddy, baby brother and then she said “…and I love myself.” Wow. How did she know that? Where did she get that from? We’ve never talked about how she should love herself or the power of positive messages. She said it naturally and without any sense of it being different …

“Feeling” vs “being”…

June 26, 2014

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedin“You have no need to travel anywhere. Journey within yourself, enter a mine of rubies and bathe in the splendour of your own light.” Rumi There is a difference between being and feeling. This took me some time to understand. And I still need to constantly remind myself to aim for feeling, not being. Being is easy if your description of what you want to “be” …

Fighting to love my body

April 16, 2014

Google+emailTwitterFacebookLinkedinYou got to fight… for your right… to feel great in your body. It’s hard to feel good in our bodies as they are. Because if we choose to pay attention (and it’s so hard not to), there are lots of people and messages out there that tell us that we can’t feel good in our bodies. Right now. As we are. That makes me …